Vision First, Strategy Second
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to get tangled in “what if” scenarios?
What if I make the wrong move? What if they don’t respond the way I hope? What if it falls apart?
These loops can be exhausting. The irony is that most of the time, the real problem isn’t the decision itself — it’s that we’ve skipped the most important step: getting clear on the vision.
When you know exactly what outcome you want, the fog of “what if” starts to lift.
Vision doesn’t guarantee the road will be smooth, but it gives you something solid to steer toward. Without it, we end up reacting to fears instead of responding to what matters most.
A Real Example
I recently spoke with a client who’s raising two teenage daughters. She’s divorced, and the parenting dynamics are challenging.
While she sets expectations in her home, their dad plays the role of “Disneyland Dad” — saying yes to everything.
She told me, “I just want them to be respectful at home.” But underneath that, she was afraid to set clear boundaries.
Her voice dropped when she said, “What if they leave?” Her biggest fear was losing connection with her girls if she enforced rules they didn’t like.
It’s a valid fear. Parenting teenagers is tough, and post-divorce dynamics add another layer. But the key moment came when I asked her to step back from the what if and focus on the what for.
From “What If” to “What For”
“Get clear first: What outcome would you truly love here? Beyond the day-to-day battles, what kind of young women do you want to raise?” She didn’t have to think long.
Raising strong, kind, respectful young women who know how to thrive in the world. That’s the vision.
Once she got clear on that, the strategy naturally followed: set the boundaries, have the hard conversations, model the values even when it’s uncomfortable.
Will it be easy? Not always. Will her daughters push back? Probably. But at least now the decisions are anchored in what she wants to create, not what she’s trying to a
Vision Grounds You
Fear-based questions like “What if I’m wrong?” keep us spinning. Vision-based questions like “What would I love?” anchor us.
When we know the destination, it doesn’t matter if the road has twists — we’re not making decisions based on temporary emotions or worst-case scenarios.
We’re aligning with something larger, something stable. This principle applies everywhere: parenting, career transitions, relationships, health decisions, starting that thing you’ve been dreaming about.
Strategy without vision is like trying to navigate in the dark with no compass.
But when vision leads, strategy follows — and you’d be surprised how often the right next steps become obvious once you’re clear on where you’re actually going.
Call to Action: Clarify Your Desired Outcome
The next time you catch yourself spiraling in “what if” questions, pause.
Breathe. Ask yourself: What outcome would I love to see here?
For my client, it’s raising two daughters who embody respect, resilience, and love.
For you, it might be building a relationship where you feel seen and valued, launching that project you’ve been sitting on, or finally making peace with a decision you’ve been avoiding.
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In closing, when vision leads, fear loses its grip. And more often than not, things turn out far better than the fear predicted.
Vision first. Strategy second. Always.
With love,
Edna
