In a world of either/or choices, it’s easy to get trapped in the belief that life is a series of trade-offs. As a coach, I often urge my clients to look closely at four key areas: health and well-being, love and relationships, innovation or career, and time and money freedom.
In an ideal world, all these aspects of life would thrive, bringing us fulfillment and purpose. Yet, more often than not, we find ourselves excelling in some areas while struggling in others. We’ve convinced ourselves that we can’t have money if we have love or that success in our career means sacrificing our relationships. We’ve internalized these false dichotomies, making them our truth.
Growing up, my mom always reminded me, “We might not have had a lot of money, but we were rich in other ways.” And she was right. We had love, laughter, and meaningful relationships – even if we didn’t have fancy toys or a hefty bank account.
But that mindset made it easy for me to settle despite desiring more, and even harder to believe I deserve success in my coaching business. It was like I had a flat tire in my mind, and I didn’t know how to fix it.
But here’s the truth: life doesn’t have to be a series of compromises. We don’t have to choose between happiness and success, between fun and hard work. We can have it all. We’re meant to have it all.
Enter “Yes, And.” Instead of thinking, “I can have this OR that,” we can say, “Yes, I can have this, AND I can have that too!” It’s about embracing life’s abundance and believing we deserve to thrive in every aspect.
So, where in your life are you settling because you think it’s a trade-off? The good news is you can change your mindset. You can rewire your brain to believe in new possibilities.
A simple yet powerful tool is affirmation. Tell yourself, “It’s okay for me to have [fill in the blank with what you’re lacking]” or “I can do/be [fill in the blank], and [fill in the blank].” These words may seem simple, but you’ll start to believe them as you repeat them.
A belief is just a thought you’ve had repeatedly so that you can build a new belief system of unlimited potential for your life.
Believing in You!
