Flipping Your Stinking Thinking’
You are being taken advantage of
It is going to be too hard
You are not going to enjoy the event because of XYZ
It is going to cost too much money
They are just saying that to be nice, or to sell me
I failed before so it is likely to happen again so why make the effort
A Personal Story
Patterns of Thinking and Paradigms
Assumptions that Work
AN INVITATION TO LIFEWORK
Throughout your day, check your energy and mood. If you are feeling low, down or negative, what has been your thinking?
- What assumptions have you been making about the situation you are experiencing?
- Challenge your assumption, is it true, or is it a belief based on previous experiences?
- Is there a possibility that you are assuming XYZ to protect yourself from getting hurt?
- Is this a pattern of thinking that is limiting your growth and success?
Identify ways that your assumptions have been in the way from enjoying your life, creating what you want, and being who you want to be.
Make a note of this assumption to see if there is a trend with future observations you will make.
After a week or so of observation, evaluate what you’ve noted and look for trends and patterns you’ve discovered. Do you see an assumption on your list that you know does not serve you?
Decide if you are willing to reframe the assumptions and do the work it takes to repattern it.
Be thankful for your new awareness of your paradigm. You cannot change what you do not recognize, so you are on your way to changing it.
Congratulate yourself and celebrate your awareness.
Potential Steps:
- As you see the assumption appear, stop the thinking as soon as you detect it.
- Have an opposing thought ready to think, or a question like – is this really true? Have the answer; for example, “This is not true and it’s not a belief that I choose to have “.
- Once you have stopped the thought, then replace it with a new thought and take an action step that will help you move away from that thinking.
- Reward yourself with an “excellent job!” compliment when you have caught your thinking. You are now building positive energy and muscle from doing the work. Your subconscious mind will help you find more of that thinking.
- Stay focused on the work. It takes rigor and dedication to do the work. One of the ways changes occurs is with repetition, so stay committed to building a system to change your belief.