What if

by | Mar 3, 2022 | 0 comments

Instead of using “what if” as regret over what you did not do, use it as an impetus to transform your experiences.

How do I change my mindset?

When I‘ve had conversations with some of you, you ask “How do you change your mindset from thinking negative to positive? My response generally is along the lines that it takes time of noticing your thinking and making changes along the way. Deciding you will catch yourself thinking and then making intentional changes. Resetting new thought patterns is a commitment to yourself.

Honor and celebrate yourself

Also, have compassion for yourself. Up until now, you’ve done the best you can with the awareness that you’ve had. We are all moving up the spiral of our becoming, our new selves. Celebrate today for moving forward in a different way, with new intentions. If you fall, do not spend too much time with regret, continue to move forward.

It is in our DNA

Our brains are wired to help us to void danger. In primitive times, negative based thoughts were helpful by keeping us safe, helping us stay away from harm, and taking too many risks. These instincts were useful because they kept us vigilant from threats, predators and provided physical safety. In today’s time, that wiring no longer serves us. We no longer require that defensive mechanism. Yet we innately think the worst case, why we can’t. why it’s not possible. As a result of our thinking, we stop ourselves from acting, we are fearful and at times cause unnecessary anxiety and angst.

Life offers opportunities

Remember a time when there was an opportunity offered to you and your immediate response was doubt? You were too afraid to take a chance, to make the change, to commit to something different. Use these recollections as the framework to learn more about yourself, and your thinking,

The door of opportunity opens, and you say . . .

No, I don’t think that is possible

No, I can’t do that

No, it’s going to be too hard

No, I can’t afford it

No, it’s not going to work out

Learn from your previous thinking and next time have 2 magic words ready when those patterns of thought sneak in.

“What-if”

What if it is possible?

What if you could?

What if it were easy?

What if there was a way of affording it?

What if it all worked out?

Once the what-if thought makes an imprint, stay with it, entertain it, have it be an ongoing mantra about the situation. The possibility of what-if allows the flow of energy to bring you new ideas on how to make it happen.

Staying open

If there is a way of making it happen you are open to finding it. I admit it is not easy or simple. It takes rigor because up until now you have been acting differently. The more you stay open to what-if, the newer tracks of thinking you are laying.

It changes your attitude about the situation; instead of thinking “I can’t, your new thought is” I can”. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right,” which emphasizes that your attitude determines your success or failure.

Personal Experience

What-if, is a statement that has changed many experiences in my life. I remember one time; I was thinking my day was going to be hard and stressful because I had several appointments, and I was not sure if I would have enough time to get from one place to another on time. My initial thought was to change an appointment so I would not be “too stressed out.” Then I thought, what if I am just making this into a big deal and my day is easy. What if it all falls into place and I go from one appointment to another with ease and grace. I decided to stay in that thinking – it was going to be an easy day, full of great experiences, and at the end of the day, I would look back and be grateful for what transpired. Exploring the possibility of “what-if” allowed me to set the intention to have a great day. To commune with Spirit for a good experience in my day. Had I not set that intention, I would have likely changed an appointment or been stressed out while going from one appointment to another. I remember not being surprised how it all worked out as I had envisioned in my intention, I was amazed, as I am every time, how your mindset is the foundation for the experiences you have. I was thankful for catching my thoughts and inviting a ‘what-if’ opportunity into my life.

The timing of your What Ifs matters 

Contemplating what-if before your decision helps to shift your thinking to live a more expansive, fuller life. Up until now, you may have been asking ‘what if’ after regretting not having acted to invitations to experience life fuller.

Move your What If contemplation in front of decision-making, instead of in the back of it. 

INVITATION TO LIFEWORK

Experiment and bring more “what-if” situations into your life. Instead of shutting the door on the possibility, think “what if” it can be possible. That simple mental move shifts your attitude to focus on possible ways of making things happen, instead of automatically thinking negatively. What you focus on expands, so as you entertain the possibility, you move closer to probability.

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